The Trip in A Nutshell

I stood by for three flights and finally made it on the fourth one. My consolation? I was in First Class.

First Class

I got to the hotel, just in time to shower and dress for the rehearsal dinner, which was wonderful. But after the day I had, what I wanted most was sleep. I was so happy to get in the bed….

My bedDo you see that? That is my bed. MY bed. No fidgety, sprawling babies in it. No preschoolers peeing in it. No snoring hubby in it. MY BED! WoooHoooo!!!!

I must say, my hotel room and my bed were almost the highlight of my trip. Well, yeah, they were the highlight. I mean, the wedding was incredible, but if I had to choose between the wedding festivities and my bed, I would have just looked for the wedding photos on Facebook.

I feel a little bit weird posting pictures of the wedding ceremony on the web for the world to see, but I want to share the experience with you. So I decided to post this one pic which is a bit of a group shot, but I think captures the atmosphere of the entire weekend.

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We had a blast.

The trip home was a repeat of the trip there. Stood by for several flights, finally getting on the last flight of the night. My laptop battery was dead and there wasn’t an outlet to be found. I was so bored, I had an idea for a photo collection.

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I call it, “Feet in the Airport.”

Finally, I was able to board a flight for home. Again, first class, but at this point, who cares?

I had a great weekend away, back to reality!


Hostage Situation

I wanted to tell you all about the wedding. I wanted to show you the videos that I shot with my new FLIP video camera. I wanted to show you the two best parts of my trip, explain how I finally made it onto the flights and then faced the same nightmare on the way home. I wanted to talk about all the things that have been going on in my life since I came back, but I couldn’t.
Because I was being held hostage.
By a book.
When I start reading, I can’t stop until I finish it. And this was a 700 pager. So every second that I wasn’t cooking, cleaning or otherwise occupied, I was reading.

And I couldn’t blog.

And I couldn’t read your blogs.

But, the good news is that I finished the book last night. And, I’ve been taking notes on the things that I wanted to blog about. The problem is, those notes are like a word or two written on scrap paper all over my house and car. Sooo…..not sure if those posts are actually going to come to fruition. Maybe I can compile them into a random Tuesday post or something.
Anywhoo, I finished the book. So I’ll be back to blogging tonight.
Tomorrow for sure.
Definitely by this weekend.


It’s Mother’s Day and you should be doing what you love to do best. But just in case what you love to do best is blog hop, and somehow you found your way here, I wanted to have something special for you.

Today I am remembering all of my mommy friends who have lost a child. Whether you had your baby for a few weeks in utero or for many years on earth, if you have experienced a loss, then this poem ( is for you. I pray that somehow, some way you find a little modicum of peace, if even for just a little while.

I also want to shout-out all of my mommy friends (both bloggy and irl). You all have a very special place in my heart. I haven’t known you the longest, but you are so very special to me!!! I think it’s because we are taking this very singular journey together. There is nothing like motherhood and I’m so glad that you are my companions on this road. I love you!!!

Finally, I’d like to say thank-you to my own mother (who is a complete nut job, btw) who gave me life and raised me to the best of her ability. Mommy, I’m going to try to stop judging you. You were dealt a hand and you made choices. Sometimes you did what you thought was best, sometimes you did what you thought you had to do. Sometimes you did what the hell you wanted to do, but that’s life.  Anywhoo, our experiences make us who we are and if it weren’t for the perfect combination of your skillful parenting and colossal screw-ups, I wouldn’t be the person that I am today. And one day my kids will say the same.

Here’s to you Mom!!!

I like it, I really like it!

Nobody paid me in cash or in kind for the following review.

So, I was in Target the other day and I needed some dishwasher detergent. I was just about to pick up Cascade which is what I typically use, but the Chewy mom in me, vaguely remembered hearing something about phosphates or some other chemical in dishwasher detergent…what was it….oh yeah, here it is. So, I kept looking for a more environmentally friendly variety. My eyes happened upon this visually appealing product.

Isn’t it adorable? Because I was at Tar-zhay, my initial thought was that it was some new product in cutesy packaging, but upon further investigation I discovered differently.

instead of the nasty phosphates and bleach that make up conventional dishwasher detergent, smarty dish is made from super effective ingredients so green that one of them won a presidential green chemistry award (yes, that really is an award). the blend of mineral cleaning salts, anti-spotting agents and enzymes give smarty dish its serious kick, while the biodegradable and non-toxic ingredients mean no harmful residues or fumes to worry about in your home…or down the drain.

Cute and healthy! Of course, there was yet one more test that Method had to pass in order to make it into the Gem household. Is it cheap? It was $4.99 for 20 cubes. Compared to the Cascade that I had in my other hand which was $4.29 for 20 cubes. Cheap enough for me!

So, I brought that cute little canister home and gave those eco-friendly cubes a try. Let me tell you ….they worked BETTER than the Cascade. Seriously. Much better. The dishes felt cleaner and had that squeaky clean quality that I had been missing with Cascade. To be fair, I had been using the Cascade powder as opposed to the cube, so I don’t know if that had any effect.

Oh and while we’re on the topic. I had previously tried an eco-friendly brand of dishwashing detergent that was so awful, I didn’t even finish using the entire container. And you know how tight money is around here, so you know that’s saying something. I would empty the dishwasher and have to re-wash half of my silverware and some of the plates as well. Come on, plates are the easiest thing to clean in a dishwasher! And I’m one of those people that rinse the dishes before I put them in the dishwasher!

Then I google’d that particular product and find out that it is a fraud! They label it eco-friendly because it is phosphate free but it still contains chlorine bleach. You mean to tell me that product has bleach in it and it still can’t get dishes clean? Good grief! Don’t bother trying this product. Not calling any names. But not only does it do a crappy job, but I couldn’t even find a good picture of it. Just saying.

In conclusion, go get Method Dishwasher detergent at Target!!! You can thank me later.

They Should Have Just Bought Her Some Chicken Cutlets

O.kay. So, I had something completely different planned for today’s post and then, as I’m making my cyber-rounds before I start blogging, I come across this story:

Miss California to Protect Traditional Marriage;

Pageant Paid for Her Breast Implants

Wha- huh? Excuse me? Ok, this is just sad. I read further and find this quote from Keith Lewis, co-director of the Miss California pageant.

LEWIS: Well, you know, first off, it’s not something that we endorse, nor is it something that we suggest. But when we meet with the titleholder when she’s crowned Miss California, we put to her a litany of questions about how she feels about herself, what she feels she needs to work on, what she may need to change, what is good, what is not good. We want to put her in the best possible confidence in order to present herself in the best possible light on a national stage.

Listen,this is not about Miss California’s answer during the Miss USA pageant. This is about the fact that a woman who has just won a beauty pageant feels that she needs breast implants in order to be in her best confidence and to present herself in the best possible light. I mean, really….what does that say about our society when false perfection (think airbrushing, plastic surgery, etc.) is considered the epitome of beauty? What kind of a standard is that for us and even worse, what kind of standard is that for our daughters?

I’m not going to go on and on. But tell me…what do you think?

Read the entire article here or here with video.

Parents Say the Darndest Things

Last night we went to one of our favorite Chinese restaurants for dinner because a) we haven’t eaten out in months and b) my dad basically bribed us to get us out of the house.

This is the inside. Isn't it purty?

Now, I think I have mentioned that my daughter attends a full immersion foreign language preschool. She is currently studying Japanese and French, but picks up a little Chinese and Spanish as well.

So, as we are walking into the restaurant, my daughter starts speaking to everyone she sees. And because they are Chinese, she greets them in Chinese, “Ni Hao! Ni Hao! NI HAO!”

When we walked into the foyer, he maitre’d (I hope that doesn’t sound too formal, should I have just said host?) greets us in English and Jade replies, “Ni Hao!” He looks surprised for a second and looks up at us as if to ascertain if one of us are Chinese or maybe part-Chinese or otherwise get a clue as to why our daughter is speaking Chinese. Then he proceeds to ask Jade a question in Chinese. She answers and he is astounded (so I think). He looks up at us and asks us a question in Chinese.
I blush a little and tell him kindly, “Sorry, we don’t speak Chinese.”
He stares at me and says, “That wasn’t Chinese. I said, you want sit outside or inside.”

So embarrassing!!!

The Invitation

I love receiving cheer in the mail. Because we live in the age of electronic communication, we rarely receive anything other than bills or solicitations in the mail. Seriously, it is at the point where I usually don’t even bother going to the mailbox unless it’s around the holidays.

Well, please imagine my delight when I checked the mailbox earlier this week and found only one piece of mail and this is what it was.

This is the back, so you can't get the full glory. Can't show my address, never know what loonies are stalking my blog. Not you, of course ;)

This is the back, so you can't get the full glory. Can't show my address, never know what loonies are stalking my blog. Not you, of course 😉

Isn’t it gorgeous? I couldn’t wait to open it up. And look what was inside……

You love it, don't you?

You love it, don't you?

Excitedly, I opened the bow and look!!!


My cousin is marrying into a traditional Indian family. How exciting! I love learning about different cultures and I love to party!! What could be better. But check out the schedule of activities.


Can you believe it? The wedding and the various ceremonies will last, literally, all day! OMG!! I am like, beside myself with excitement. And that’s just the wedding day. There is a rehearsal dinner on Saturday and the Indian ceremonies are on Monday. How fun!

Question: Do I have to bring a gift to each event? Don’t judge me!!!