Mutually Exclusive

Today I realized something…DD and I have come to a point in our relationship where our happiness is mutually exclusive. What makes her happy makes me miserable and vice versa. I realized this after a couple of weeks of constantly saying ‘no’, ‘stop’, ‘please don’t do that’, ‘are you making a good choice’, ‘what in the world’, and yes, even the occasional ‘are you crazy?’ has slipped out. DD responds to these statements by ceasing the behavior but also pouting, stomping away, slamming down the offending object, and even throwing herself on the sofa and dissolving into a fit of tears. The quiet following her angst is pure bliss to me however I feel a little guilty because now instead of playing happily she is sulking.

Conversely, on those occasions when I try not to be a wet blanket and allow her to make ‘music’ by banging her silverware on her dishes and the table, hide in my kitchen cabinets nearly taking them off the hinges as she gets in and out, stand on my furniture, swing a jump rope helicopter style in the house and of course my biggest pet peeve, talk (scream) at the top of her lungs, I find myself longing for a straitjacket and a padded room. Sooo, what to do?

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3 thoughts on “Mutually Exclusive

  1. ha! welcome to my world. i try my best to remember that my girls are 2 and 4, and that’s what kids at that age like to do. before kids i had a very type-A personality, so now i work on letting go (on a daily basis) and allow them to make messes, make noise and act crazy as long as i can take it 😉

    then i hunker down and clean it all up.

  2. I know exactly what you mean. I have two kids at home a 3 year old daughter and a 11 month old son. So both are usually doing something i don’t want them to at the same time. And I am always slip out the “you’re driving me nuts.” So much my daughter says “you’re making me nuts.” now. So I try to remember that they are just kids and playing is natural. So I just take a step back for a minute and try and relax. Life is too short to keep stressing over little things.

  3. Oh my. I am on the verge of being in that place. I guess it is just a phase. But how long does it last?

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